Billy Porter
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The rejection that I have received from my own people.
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I’ve learned to accept everything. Part of enjoying life is releasing those disappointments.
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Alison Steadman
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Not making a movie with Jimmy Stewart or Cary Grant.
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That in 2019 we’re still dealing with people hating people or people wanting to keep women down. That we haven’t evolved past that is a huge disappointment.
Three times when I lived in New York, I missed seeing David Bowie in real life by moments.
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Getting to challenge the status quo by being myself, just existing openly and honestly and boldly on a public level. It hasn’t always been easy, and it came with its fair set of challenges and sacrifices, and I am proud of that.
Online shopping for clothes.
I don’t embarrass easily: I’m kinda shameless.
I would try to work on being able to trust people more easily.
“You’re never going to make it.” It was some guy I was dating. I had the last laugh.
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