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The world doesn’t consist of bad and good people; it consists of people seeing things in a different way.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 April 2026 source ↗
The question
What lesson has mattered most in your life?Originally asked
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
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Chaka Khan
American singer
To not be afraid, to stand there and be strong and loving and honest.
Stay out of other people’s business.
People remember how you make them feel more than they remember what you say or do.
Simon Boas
Aid worker; executive director of Jersey Overseas Aid
All our tombs will be unvisited in a few years - all our actions will mostly be unremembered - but the smile you gave the checkout lady or the kind words you gave to a stranger in the street could still be rippling forward. We all have that opportunity and it's a huge power.
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I wanted to play for Tottenham.
As a nice guy, but I’m not sure that is going to happen.
I worked on a trawler and I was seasick the whole time.
Tottenham this season.
When Molde won the Norwegian premier league in 2011, the year the club was 100 years old.
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