Back in the day, when comedy was crueller, my monologues were full of terrible jokes about people, and you can’t apologise because then you’re asking people to forgive you. Your punishment is to walk around knowing you said these horrible things.
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The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Canadians are trained to say sorry to almost everything and everyone.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 21 June 2025 source ↗
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Archie Panjabi
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My dog, Mr Q, because he has the saddest look when I leave.
My younger self, because I was very, very tough on myself.
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To my younger self for not being patient with myself, and for giving up on myself at times.
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My children’s education.
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