The way I allow myself to talk to myself.
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The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
The Guardian's The Q&A has retained this Proust-derived prompt from at least 2007 through 2026, and ABC independently put it to the Obamas in 2011.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Lack of confidence masquerading as perfectionism.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 May 2025 source ↗
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Probably watching some poor abandoned cat or dog being nursed back to life by a stranger on YouTube.
Being an actor is inherently embarrassing. You have to embrace it.
I’m quite scared of bats. I’m just seeing rats with wings – no, thanks.
Like everything is in high definition, and life is on your side.
Anyone whose party I said I’d go to and didn’t turn up. I can get quite socially anxious at times.
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