Racial and homophobic slurs – the F- and N-words. When I moved to London, people screamed the F-word from their cars, and that stings.
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In a rehearsal just after graduating from drama college, I say my lines to an older actor. He pauses, turns to the director and says: “I’m sorry, but is she going to do it like that?”
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“Your lyrics are rubbish.” It was someone I was working with when I was in my early 20s. It turned out well because I then spent a long time studying and learning how to write good lyrics.
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“You can’t play Maxim de Winter with ginger hair.”
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Probably watching some poor abandoned cat or dog being nursed back to life by a stranger on YouTube.
Not being flexible enough to dance freely.
A business-class flight. Pure indulgence.
Anyone whose party I said I’d go to and didn’t turn up. I can get quite socially anxious at times.
Being an actor is inherently embarrassing. You have to embrace it.
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