The night my daughter was born, New York, December 29, 1997. After she emerged and I held her in the palm of my hand, I walked around Manhattan in a stupor of happiness.
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As a kid, my summers at camp in the Adirondacks. And as an adult, when I’m onstage.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, September 2022 source ↗
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Filming Much Ado About Nothing. In my home, with my family and my besties and the bard all around. Pure joy.
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In my sleep in my 90s, after a great gig.
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Balancing my inner and outer life.
Arrogance and entitlement.
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