Having advanced well beyond what the French call "a certain age," I am often asked to convey to younger people helpful advice and counsel. So I will open these remarks with the best advice I ever received. The advice, which I have several times shared with others, was given to me by my mother-in-law on my wedding day. She had a prescription for a happy, enduring marriage: "It pays," she said, "it pays sometimes to be a little deaf."
What advice would you give your twenty-year-old self, and what should they ignore?
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What is your favourite side project?
Craft & work
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What song would you like played at your funeral?
Death & what remains
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What made you decide to stop something you were known for, and how did you know it was time?
Time & hindsight
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What did you want to be when you were growing up?
Identity & self
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Whom do you read even though you disagree with them?
Attention & the world
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Which living person do you most admire, and why?
Values & belief
Ask your parents questions straight away, or you’ll never know.
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Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States, 1993–2020; Judge, U.S. Court of Appeals for the D.C. Circuit 1980–1993
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New York Law School Law Review dinner, on accepting the Froessel Award, New York Law School Law Review (digitalcommons.nyls.edu), 12 February 1999
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Wendy Kopp
Founder of Teach For America; chief executive of Teach For All
And the most fulfilled, centered, grounded, happy people I know are people who made the choice to be part of an effort to actually make the world a better place. ... I would say, to me, the path of least regrets is to at least make a short-term commitment to say, “Let me work to make a real difference in the world.” The worst that could happen is you decide to move into something else later, but you’ll always take with you what you’ve given and what you’ve gained through that experience.
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Academy of Achievement recorded interview, American Academy of Achievement, 17 September 2013
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Mellody Hobson
Co-chief executive and president of Ariel Investments
I'd say be just like you. I once had someone tell me that I don't remind them of anyone that they ever met. And I took that as a huge compliment, which meant I was original. And so I would suggest to her that she speak her truth with her life, with her own sense of purpose and pursue her dreams.
Simone Biles
United States artistic gymnast
Yeah, I say put mental health first because if you don't, then you're not going to enjoy your sport and you're not going to succeed as much as you want to. So it's okay sometimes to even sit out the big competitions to focus on yourself because it shows how strong of a competitor and person that you really are rather than just battle through it.
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Post-competition press conference, Ariake Gymnastics Centre, Tokyo Olympics, Rev, 27 July 2021
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