It’s a toss-up between mean and petty.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2016 source ↗
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After the third time someone’s late, we can’t be friends any more.
Charlie Munger
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Generally speaking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought. Self-pity gets pretty close to paranoia and paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse. You do not want to drift into self-pity.
Insensitivity. Indifference about what is right or wrong. Indifference about justice.
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Oprah Winfrey. She always does the right thing—even when no one is looking.
The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
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