I would be a bit nicer to myself.
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The Q&A, The Guardian, 26 July 2025 source ↗
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View all 203 →Nothing. Without my past I wouldn’t be who I am today.
My mum died in her early 70s, and for the last six or seven years of her life she couldn’t move, didn’t speak. By the time our children were born, she was too ill to communicate. I haven’t many regrets in life, but I do regret that they never got to know her, even though she was still alive for a few years. They couldn’t see her warmth, her spirit, her courage.
I would be much more available for my brother when he was not well and try to understand more about mental health, which I didn’t know anything about at the time.
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Ulysses by James Joyce, but I might make a start next week – or the week after that …
Overwhelming, discombobulating, irrational and unreasonable.
Not being able to fend for myself and being a burden to others.
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