I have become progressively happier as I’ve got older. It’s to do with not striving as much.
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I am happiest when I am working.
The mid- to late 80s, summers spent at Park End Farm in Atherton – ankle deep in horse manure and soaking wet from falls from badly constructed rope swings across streams.
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Anyone brave enough to truly be themselves.
I’m terribly impatient.
People-pleasing.
Losing my mind.
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