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Identity & self

An honest inventory

For a birthday, a quiet Sunday, or the week you realise you have been answering other people's priorities. Not a goal worksheet — the questions people answer differently at fifty than at twenty-five.

27 questions, 2,190 answers on the record, from 1,151 members. Every question is asked in FLAPSS wording — nobody answers as anybody else.

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What counsel would you give your twenty-year-old self — and what should they ignore?

Ellen Ochoa

Electrical engineer and astronaut; director of NASA’s Johnson Space Center, 2013–2018

Recorded · National Women’s History Museum · 2018

It’s a very interesting and challenging field! It’s important to study math and science throughout high school and college, and major in some technical area.
Lech Wałęsa

President of Poland, 1990–1995; co-founder and chairman of the Solidarity trade union

Recorded · The Nobel Foundation · 1983

When I recall my own path of life I cannot but speak of the violence, hatred and lies.
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Every question in this questionnaire

  1. How would you sum yourself up in three words? 114
  2. What do you fear most? 256
  3. What fills you with the most pride? 103
  4. What does happiness look like for you when life is going well? 158
  5. What counsel would you give your twenty-year-old self — and what should they ignore? 78
  6. What would your thirty-year-old self tell your twenty-year-old self that your fifty-year-old self would still sign? —
  7. What lesson has mattered most in your life? 138
  8. What period or moment in your life brought you the most joy? 577
  9. What do you expect to regret, and is there still time to do something about it? 2
  10. If you had only one day left, how would you spend it — and what would you deliberately avoid? 54
  11. In the last five years, what new belief, behaviour, or habit has most improved your life? 21
  12. In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to? 22
  13. What ambition did you pursue because it was legible to others, and what did you quietly abandon once it was yours alone to judge? —
  14. What did you put on hold for years, and what finally made you pick it up again — or decide not to? —
  15. What would you stop doing immediately if you trusted that your worth does not depend on it? —
  16. Is there something you are still angry about years later — and what keeps it alive? —
  17. What have you been running from, and when did you first notice you were running? —
  18. When were you most charged up in the last few years — and what were you actually doing, not what you wish you were doing? —
  19. Which teacher, parent, coach, or friend most made you who you are, and what did you learn from them? 57
  20. Who are the five people you spend the most time with, and are any of them making your future smaller? —
  21. How has your life turned out differently from what you once imagined — and which difference are you grateful for? —
  22. Can you describe a moment when someone's small act of kindness changed the direction of your life? —
  23. Where in your life have you felt most accepted — and where most shut out? —
  24. What did you love doing as a child that you stopped — and when you stopped, was it worth it? —
  25. What recurring struggle comes with the work you want to do anyway — and have you decided the cost is worth paying? —
  26. Who alive today do you admire most, and what draws you to them? 407
  27. If you could revise one chapter of your past, what would you change? 203

Who has answered

Members with enough answers in this questionnaire to be worth arriving at — listed A–Z, not ranked by count.

  • Abby Wambach

    United States international footballer, 2001–2015

    2 answers United States b. 1980

  • AM
    Abi Morgan

    Welsh playwright and screenwriter

    2 answers United Kingdom b. 1968

  • Adam Kay

    British comedy writer, author, youtuber, comedian and former physician

    2 answers United Kingdom b. 1980

  • AL
    Adam Lambert

    American singer

    2 answers United States b. 1982

  • Adrian Edmondson

    English actor, comedian, musician and writer

    2 answers United Kingdom b. 1957

  • Adwoa Aboah

    British fashion model

    3 answers United Kingdom b. 1992

  • Akio Toyoda

    President of Toyota Motor Corporation, 2009–2023; chairman from 2023

    2 answers Japan b. 1956

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