Andi Oliver
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To my brother, because when we were kids I didn’t understand his illness and it used to irritate me.
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I didn’t learn to be intimate with people until I was in my 20s, so I was a very bad friend in my teens. There was a girl I was best friends with at college; I always used to kiss the boys she liked. I’d like to apologise to her.
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Terence Conran
British restaurateur and designer
My ex-wife Caroline, because she found my style of life rather irritating.
To everyone I’ve bored.
Marina Abramović
Performance artist
To myself. I am my harshest critic.
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My A-level results - I got two Cs and an A. I had applied to do philosophy at Cambridge, and thought my life was over.
Nothing – I don’t like music. I want my funeral to be uncomfortably quiet.
Ten years ago, I went to visit my dad in Australia. I walked to the edge of a cliff and looked over and tripped. I righted myself but my head was over the edge. No one saw it.
To be looked at.
Cleaning toilets at McDonald’s when I was 16.
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