Harriet Walter
English actress
I went to a funeral where they played Cheek To Cheek: Fred Astaire singing “Heaven. I’m in heaven… ” Everyone smiled. I’d like that.
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Nothing – I don’t like music. I want my funeral to be uncomfortably quiet.
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Matt Smith
English actor
I don't want to think that far ahead, but a song I like is Herb Alpert's This Guy's In Love With You. Let's pretend it's going to be played at my wedding instead.
Kim Gordon
American musician and artist
Cortez The Killer, by Neil Young.
EL James
British author
Adagio from Concerto No 3 in D Minor BWV 974, played by James Rhodes.
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My A-level results - I got two Cs and an A. I had applied to do philosophy at Cambridge, and thought my life was over.
Cleaning toilets at McDonald’s when I was 16.
I would be a bit nicer to myself.
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