No one, I’m pretty good at saying sorry.
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View all 209 →Back in the day, when comedy was crueller, my monologues were full of terrible jokes about people, and you can’t apologise because then you’re asking people to forgive you. Your punishment is to walk around knowing you said these horrible things.
I behaved badly with two old lovers. Years later, when I took one to lunch to apologise, it made it worse.
To my younger self. I was incredibly self-loathing and self-doubting, and I’m still undoing that damage 30 years later.
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View profile →After my documentary aired. I suddenly had a bit of panic, because it’s very personal. I couldn’t watch it on the night, I was so scared. The next day people were walking up to me on the street and telling me their life story. It was extraordinary.
I had no idea. When I was a week away from leaving school, a teacher said, “We’ve been talking in the staffroom and we all think you should be an actor.” I thought, “That’s exactly what I want.” The rest is history.
I was a bailiff for half a morning. I couldn’t stand it.
I would have had a bit more belief in myself: I would have reached for America sooner.
In New York, I once went shopping and spent something like $7,000 on a couple of shirts, trousers and a jacket. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but it was ridiculous.
I’ve helped create a path for young black actors. When I go to swanky Hollywood dos, it’s great to see more and more young black British faces. I can remember a time when I was the only one there.
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