Losing my virginity.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
The exact prompt is fixed in Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire and independently sustained in The Guardian's The Q&A over multiple decades.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I’m quite scared of bats. I’m just seeing rats with wings – no, thanks.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 May 2025 source ↗
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That we won’t act fast enough to save the planet.
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View profile →Probably watching some poor abandoned cat or dog being nursed back to life by a stranger on YouTube.
A business-class flight. Pure indulgence.
Being an actor is inherently embarrassing. You have to embrace it.
Not being flexible enough to dance freely.
Lack of confidence masquerading as perfectionism.
Like everything is in high definition, and life is on your side.
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