Adam Kay: How would you describe what love feels like to you? — FLAPSS

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How would you describe what love feels like to you?

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Adam Kay

British comedy writer, author, youtuber, comedian and former physician

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When my cold toes drain the heat from his warm ones, but he doesn’t mind at all and is happy for our tarsal temperatures to meet in the middle.

The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

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Michelle Visage

Love is understanding, authenticity and being able to be exactly who you are with no editing – and it’s a gift.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 20 January 2024 source ↗

Panic and euphoria.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 23 December 2023 source ↗

Mary McCartney English photographer and cookbook author

It feels healthy and it makes your body tingle and you feel excited to be alive.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 26 February 2022 source ↗

It’s really, really nice.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 1 March 2025 source ↗

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Question What period or moment in your life brought you the most joy? Time & hindsight

In the one photo I’ve seen where my smile looks convincing – I’m four years old, so I’m guessing then. But I just won a Bafta and that felt amazing, too. So, roughly every 40 years.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

Question If you could revise one chapter of your past, what would you change? Failure & regret

I could have done without being sexually assaulted, or having an eating disorder, or pushing myself to breaking point, but every chapter of my life brought me here.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

Question What is the harshest thing anyone has said to you? Failure & regret

A reviewer once called me “artistically bankrupt”, and it doesn’t feel like reviews can get much worse than that.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

Question Which trait in yourself do you like least? Identity & self

Self-destruction.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

Question What disappointment has stayed with you longest? Failure & regret

I’ve never been upgraded on a plane.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

Question What is the worst job you have ever had? Craft & work

A comedy gig at an army barracks for thousands of angry, horny squaddies just back from six months in the desert. I was on straight after the stripper.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗

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