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I’ve got no kids, but I’d like us to leave a planet for everyone’s children.
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Cheryl Strayed
Author of Wild and Tiny Beautiful Things
Without question, the only legacy that really matters to me is the one I leave with my children. I want them to grow to be fully actualized people who can give to the world in ways creative and otherwise and who feel my love in their hearts and lives always, no matter what happens—whether I live to be really old or die young, I hope that my legacy lives in them.
An understanding that kindness is the answer.
High self-esteem.
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Last summer with my boyfriend Richie. We had no plans – it was just wonderful.
Doomscrolling on my phone.
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