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Every woman I dated before I met my wife, because I think I convinced too many people that they were the one, and they were not the one.
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To a man whose heart I broke at 17.
To kids I bullied in school. I have apologised and I will continue to. To repay those things karmically, I will watch my kids’ hearts like a hawk for signs of hardening or any distortions of empathy that they might develop.
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