Seeing the future die, from Bobby Kennedy to dear friends.
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View all 367 →It has been in myself, for allowing individuals who I relied on to make important decisions in my life that left me alone to pick up the pieces.
Never to have played at the National or the RSC.
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Many of the so-called celebs I've met.
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Every job I don’t get.
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View profile →Since hostile people still call me a former Playboy Bunny, even at 82, I probably shouldn’t have done that in my youth, even to write an exposé. And since a couple of times they’ve also referred to me as a former CIA agent, because I went to two Soviet-era communist youth festivals, I probably shouldn’t have done that, either. Yet if I hadn’t done both, I might have judged other people by such empty symbols, too.
I behaved badly with two old lovers. Years later, when I took one to lunch to apologise, it made it worse.
First a horse rancher, then a dancer.
I haven’t done it yet.
Feeling you want someone else’s welfare as much and sometimes more than your own.
Being a salesgirl in a baby shop where the others said things like, “He’s Jewish, but she’s American.” Also, after college, being a waitress in London, and trying to make change in the old money of shillings and pence.
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