Honesty, trustworthiness, and a deep understanding of emotions.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Kindness and laughter. If someone makes me laugh, I’m halfway in love.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 30 May 2024 source ↗
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Unselfishness. I like to surround myself with people who are kind and have feelings for others and their problems.
Eugene Levy
Actor and writer
Knowing they are there for you.
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View profile →Cruelty, and also general rudeness and unkindness. I’ve always told my children: Don’t ever find entertainment in someone else’s discomfort.
When I’m feeling lazy and I sleep in too much.
Jane Goodall. I got the chance to meet her a few years ago, and it was the thrill of a lifetime. When I was little, I wanted to be her. I thought she had the coolest life in the world.
My wedding day, and when my children were first placed in my arms.
My kids are in the house. I’ve been gardening in my vegetable garden. I have absolutely zero obligations or calls to return. Now I’m fixing dinner with music playing and having a glass of wine.
Losing a loved one.
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