I don’t remember the womb, so … my first taste of ice cream? First night in a girl’s bed: happy.
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Asked in 52 of the 131 consecutive instalments of The Guardian's The Q&A harvested on 2026-08-29.
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My wedding day, and when my children were first placed in my arms.
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My childhood summers in Trenton, Ohio, and starting work at Warner Bros.
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