Mean-spiritedness and the inability to set and respect boundaries.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Lack of self-doubt.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 June 2022 source ↗
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Looking down at other people. I was brought up to treat people as you treat yourself, with respect. The people you meet on the way up are the people you meet on the way down.
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Meanness and lying.
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I’d like a manoeuvre called after me, in the way Heimlich has.
The day I had to stop playing football five years ago. I realised I couldn’t hack it any more.
Sharper knives.
My dog wanting to go out for a wee.
People laughing at me, which is terrible for someone who makes a living out of making people laugh.
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