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What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?

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When I was a child, a member of staff at Wood End Assessment Centre [a former children’s home in Wigan] bellowed: “He copies them poems off of Bob Marley records.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 14 October 2023 source ↗

“We’d love you to be on the cover of our magazine and we’ll give you a makeover.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 23 December 2023 source ↗

Another actress once said to me, “I’ve told you huge lies to make you feel good about yourself.” I’m not going to say who.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 January 2024 source ↗

I’ve heard it all: too fat, too short, no talent. Those are the things that cut me deep when I was younger, but now they drive me.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 20 January 2024 source ↗

When I was first acting, in college, a relative came and saw me in Hedda Gabler and she said: “Look in the mirror, you’re not an actor. An actor looks like Mel Gibson.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 24 February 2024 source ↗

“Do you know what your problem is?” It was a dear friend of mine. They were referring to the fact that I’m impatient.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 20 September 2025 source ↗

One time an engineer said, “I always forget your frequency is at the same level as a crying baby.” I think he was on to something, because I have been told to shush many times over the years.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 November 2025 source ↗

“You’ll never, ever work.” When you are young and full of hopes and dreams it’s devastating. I am just grateful that I thought: “Well, I’m going to try.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 20 December 2025 source ↗

On X, I am regularly called a traitor, a fraud, a grifter, a weakling, a narcissist, a coward and a child molester.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 17 January 2026 source ↗

I was going to a bar with friends and there was a line at the door. I’d been there before and asked the doorman to skip the line. He said, “Oh, I remember you, you were in Almost Famous, weren’t you?” And I said, “Yeah.” And he goes, “Yeah, get back in line.”

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 February 2026 source ↗

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